We just found out we're pregnant and we're going to a party with a bunch of friends. None of them have children and most aren't even paired off in long-term relationships.
It isn't that we're too young to be having children. We're in our early 30's and both have good jobs. We even own a home (well, condo). It is just that most our friends just aren't having kids. Most the people I know that are my age already have several kids or aren't going to have them. Our social crowd seems to have split into two groups: those with and those without.
So here we are, at a party with this news hanging over us and we're supposed to behave like nothing is going on. Of course I'm seriously nauseated and barely keeping anything down, and I now have to find a way to dodge drinking at this party.
Not more than 30 minutes into the party we get asked the typically newlywed question by the first attendee, "When are you having kids?" My husband hears the question from across the room and his eyes meet mine. He's waiting for the answer so he knows how the rest of the evening will go.
I just smiled and laughed, and said we're thinking about it. My husband nods his hear and continues about his conversation.
I tour their house and start feeling anxious. They have an actual yard and spare rooms. They look like they might be planning on having kids eventually (at least based off their new very large home). I realize our condo is just not the place I want to raise our kids.
After fielding the "are you going to have kids" question at least 6 more times we decide it's late and time to go home. We get into the car and we look at each other. "We need to move" tumbles out of both of our mouths. I'm so lucky that my husband and I are so well matched.
Now not only are we expecting our first child but we're going to buy a new house. Let it never be said that we do things halfway!
It isn't that we're too young to be having children. We're in our early 30's and both have good jobs. We even own a home (well, condo). It is just that most our friends just aren't having kids. Most the people I know that are my age already have several kids or aren't going to have them. Our social crowd seems to have split into two groups: those with and those without.
So here we are, at a party with this news hanging over us and we're supposed to behave like nothing is going on. Of course I'm seriously nauseated and barely keeping anything down, and I now have to find a way to dodge drinking at this party.
Not more than 30 minutes into the party we get asked the typically newlywed question by the first attendee, "When are you having kids?" My husband hears the question from across the room and his eyes meet mine. He's waiting for the answer so he knows how the rest of the evening will go.
I just smiled and laughed, and said we're thinking about it. My husband nods his hear and continues about his conversation.
I tour their house and start feeling anxious. They have an actual yard and spare rooms. They look like they might be planning on having kids eventually (at least based off their new very large home). I realize our condo is just not the place I want to raise our kids.
After fielding the "are you going to have kids" question at least 6 more times we decide it's late and time to go home. We get into the car and we look at each other. "We need to move" tumbles out of both of our mouths. I'm so lucky that my husband and I are so well matched.
Now not only are we expecting our first child but we're going to buy a new house. Let it never be said that we do things halfway!
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